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17 hours ago

SallyChiwuziedotcom

Voula Vergis, thank you so much for this refreshing message on a Sunday. It encapsulates everything my soul thrives to accomplish this side of life #love #messenger #writer #sundaycalm #easylijesundaymorning #wyd #unshakableisastateofmind #unshakable ... See MoreSee Less

Voula Vergis, thank you so much for this refreshing message on a Sunday. It encapsulates everything my soul thrives to accomplish this side of life #love #messenger #writer #sundaycalm #easylijesundaymorning #wyd #unshakableisastateofmind #unshakable

Love in the middle of the week 💝

Coping Mechanisms - Scheduled Cries

Listen. I am a single mum with a 9-5, a business to run and a running (amongst other things) addiction. Of course I get heartbroken, dishevelled, thrown off balance and stuck in the deep end from time to time – c’est la vie. Crying is healthy and therapeutic, except...how inconveniencing would it be to get into work and succumb to the urge to blubber in the toilet, or on the school run or the commute. Sure, I have the exceptions where the alternative is a major implosion, but mostly, over time, I developed this strategy where I schedule my cries to times that suit. There is a friend in particular who understands this strategy and between us, it wouldn’t be odd for her to receive a text from me saying: ‘See you at 9.30pm, I need to cry’, to which she would respond, ‘Sure hun, red wine?’ and most times, the session would heal somewhat.

On a related (ish) note, the importance of a soul feeding holiday is that it gives one a chance to inhale and exhale several times with a limitless schedule – these tend to keep urges to cry over ‘woe-is-me’ life issues at bay. In this photo, I had an unscheduled 12 second cry but this time, it was about how liberated I felt just in the moment when I was granted the grace of break to intentionally notice what my children actually sound like when they laugh, how blissfully, beautifully blue the sky can be, why the caged bird actually sings and how truly refreshing a sangria is in Alicante when sipped for leisurely pleasure as opposed to helping to prevent an impromptu blubber.

Sally Chiwuzie here, sunglasses on. Dream chasing and legacy building are on track. Continuous improvement. Always.

Inner Voice: Whatever floats your boat Ms. #Unshakable (or your inflatable swan as the case may be!)

Me: It’s not a swan. It’s a Pegasus. It symbolises my #Unshakable state of mind and in that moment specifically, balance, stability, and harmony – God’s love.

Inner Voice and Me: HIGH FIVE

#Unshakable is a state of mind. Take your state of mind with you everywhere you go. Be #Unshakable. Be in truth with yourself. Love yourself.

Lots of love,

#Unshakable Sally xxx

#SallyChiwuzie #Unshakable #TogetherWeAreUnshakable #SilentSymphonies #StateofMind #Pegasus #Spain #Alicante #CuidadQuesada #Sangria #InnerPeace #Strength #Life #CopingMechanisms #Individuality #InnerPeace #Serenity #Grace #Laughter #Joy #Togetherness #Bikini #Hat #Holiday
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Love in the middle of the week 💝

Coping Mechanisms - Scheduled Cries 

Listen. I am a single mum with a 9-5, a business to run and a running (amongst other things) addiction. Of course I get heartbroken, dishevelled, thrown off balance and stuck in the deep end from time to time – c’est la vie. Crying is healthy and therapeutic, except...how inconveniencing would it be to get into work and succumb to the urge to blubber in the toilet, or on the school run or the commute. Sure, I have the exceptions where the alternative is a major implosion, but mostly, over time, I developed this strategy where I schedule my cries to times that suit. There is a friend in particular who understands this strategy and between us, it wouldn’t be odd for her to receive a text from me saying: ‘See you at 9.30pm, I need to cry’, to which she would respond, ‘Sure hun, red wine?’ and most times, the session would heal somewhat.

On a related (ish) note, the importance of a soul feeding holiday is that it gives one a chance to inhale and exhale several times with a limitless schedule – these tend to keep urges to cry over ‘woe-is-me’ life issues at bay. In this photo, I had an unscheduled 12 second cry but this time, it was about how liberated I felt just in the moment when I was granted the grace of break to intentionally notice what my children actually sound like when they laugh, how blissfully, beautifully blue the sky can be, why the caged bird actually sings and how truly refreshing a sangria is in Alicante when sipped for leisurely pleasure as opposed to helping to prevent an impromptu blubber.

Sally Chiwuzie here, sunglasses on. Dream chasing and legacy building are on track. Continuous improvement. Always.

Inner Voice: Whatever floats your boat Ms. #Unshakable (or your inflatable swan as the case may be!)

Me: It’s not a swan. It’s a Pegasus. It symbolises my #Unshakable state of mind and in that moment specifically, balance, stability, and harmony – God’s love.

Inner Voice and Me:  HIGH FIVE

#Unshakable is a state of mind. Take your state of mind with you everywhere you go. Be #Unshakable. Be in truth with yourself. Love yourself.

Lots of love,

#Unshakable Sally xxx

#SallyChiwuzie #Unshakable #TogetherWeAreUnshakable #SilentSymphonies #StateofMind #Pegasus #Spain #Alicante #CuidadQuesada #Sangria #InnerPeace #Strength #Life #CopingMechanisms #Individuality #InnerPeace #Serenity #Grace #Laughter #Joy #Togetherness #Bikini #Hat #Holiday

When something good happens, travel to celebrate. If something bad happens, travel to forget if. If nothing happens, travel to make something happen. #life #adventuretime #peaceofmind #grace #unshakableisastateofmind #travel ... See MoreSee Less

When something good happens, travel to celebrate. If something bad happens, travel to forget if. If nothing happens, travel to make something happen. #life #adventuretime #peaceofmind #grace #unshakableisastateofmind #travel

 

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Yesss! Go for it sis ❤️

I agree with you

True talk

2 weeks ago

SallyChiwuziedotcom

Thursday Love 💝

Once upon a memorable era lived two friends who were so close that cancer couldn’t decide which one of them to torture; so cancer tortured them both, mercilessly too and in equal measure. Strong Christian believers and perpetual prisoners of hope, they fought mentally, financially, emotionally, spiritually too as a matter of course. Everyone around them gathered in prayer and comfort, goodwill and all things charitable. They all believed; after all where two or three are gathered, Gods voice is usually present.

For ease of reference, let’s call them X and Y.

X’s thanksgiving service was set for the Sunday after she cleansed cancers ugliness from her system. She did not turn up because she was by Y’s bedside as Y took her last breath. X’s cousin sent the following text:

‘Dear X, you need to come in and validate the fact that honest prayer works. Your testimony will assure doubters and fence sitters that God listens.’
‘Dear Cousin…’, X responded, ‘what about Y? Did we all not pray hard enough? Why did Y die?’

X’s cousin never responded. I know this because I, too, waited upon that return text message with bated breath.

Now I know this for sure:
That there will be moments of gold and gain, and cold moments of insane pain. Even inspite of the inevitability of death, it will still knock us for six with its occasional un-foreseeability still. There will be no answers to our questions. No answers. This is why we must live each day as though we seek closure. For us and for those we love.

Sally Chiwuzie here, no sunglasses. Dream chasing and legacy building are on track….

#SallyChiwuzie #SilentSymphonies #TogetherWeAreUnshakable #Closure #Death #Stories #Questions #prisonerofhope #faith #love #charity
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Thursday Love 💝

Once upon a memorable era lived two friends who were so close that cancer couldn’t decide which one of them to torture; so cancer tortured them both, mercilessly too and in equal measure. Strong Christian believers and perpetual prisoners of hope, they fought mentally, financially, emotionally, spiritually too as a matter of course. Everyone around them gathered in prayer and comfort, goodwill and all things charitable. They all believed; after all where two or three are gathered, Gods voice is usually present.
 
For ease of reference, let’s call them X and Y.
 
X’s thanksgiving service was set for the Sunday after she cleansed cancers ugliness from her system. She did not turn up because she was by Y’s bedside as Y took her last breath. X’s cousin sent the following text:
 
‘Dear X, you need to come in and validate the fact that honest prayer works. Your  testimony will assure doubters and fence sitters that God listens.’
‘Dear Cousin…’, X responded, ‘what about Y? Did we all not pray hard enough? Why did Y die?’
 
X’s cousin never responded. I know this because I, too, waited upon that return text message with bated breath.
 
Now I know this for sure:
That there will be moments of gold and gain, and  cold moments of insane pain. Even inspite of the inevitability of death, it will still knock us for six with its occasional un-foreseeability still. There will be no answers to our questions. No answers. This is why we must live each day as though we seek closure. For us and for those we love.
 
Sally Chiwuzie here, no sunglasses. Dream chasing and legacy building are on track….
 
#SallyChiwuzie #SilentSymphonies #TogetherWeAreUnshakable #Closure #Death #Stories #Questions #prisonerofhope #faith #love #charity

2 weeks ago

SallyChiwuziedotcom

Monday Love 💝

Nothing changes if nothing changes.

Sally Chiwuzie here, no sunglasses. Dream chasing and legacy building are on track. Continuous improvement. Always.
Inner Voice - change it but look for signs of ‘same script, different cast...’ - what needs to change?
Me - *nods *

#Unshakable is a state of mind. Take your state of mind with you everywhere you go. Be #Unshakable. Be in truth with yourself. Love yourself.

Lots of love,

#Unshakable Sally xxx

SallyChiwuzie #UNSHAKABLE #SilentSymphonies #TogetherWeAreUnshakable #Monday #InnerVoice #NothingChangesIfNothingChanges #WorkWeek #StateOfMind #motivation #motivationmonday #individuality #youareyou
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Monday Love 💝

Nothing changes if nothing changes. 

Sally Chiwuzie here, no sunglasses. Dream chasing and legacy building are on track. Continuous improvement. Always. 
Inner Voice - change it but look for signs of ‘same script, different cast...’ - what needs to change? 
Me - *nods * 

#Unshakable is a state of mind. Take your state of mind with you everywhere you go. Be #Unshakable. Be in truth with yourself. Love yourself. 

Lots of love,

#Unshakable Sally xxx 

SallyChiwuzie #UNSHAKABLE #SilentSymphonies #TogetherWeAreUnshakable #Monday #InnerVoice #NothingChangesIfNothingChanges #WorkWeek #StateOfMind #motivation #motivationmonday #individuality #youareyou

3 weeks ago

SallyChiwuziedotcom

I picked this up from a @gentleaustin77 Facebook update and it kind of resonated with me. I try to avoid should’a, could’a, would’a moments and focus instead on how I rose from it. #StillIRise #UnshakableIsAstateofmind #selflove #continuousimprovement #learnfrommistakes ... See MoreSee Less

I picked this up from a @gentleaustin77 Facebook update and it kind of resonated with me. I try to avoid should’a, could’a, would’a moments and focus instead on how I rose from it. #StillIRise #UnshakableIsAstateofmind #selflove #continuousimprovement #learnfrommistakes

4 weeks ago

SallyChiwuziedotcom

Thursday Love 💝

Today, I am grateful for raindrops; you?

You cannot miss what you do not have. My childhood in Benin City saw times when we went days without water - same kind’a situations like you see on TV. I watch these adverts now and I understand that there are people who have/had it a million times rougher than I did, but let me tell you my own experience off camera. Secretly, I looked forward to these times. My sisters (bro was a baby pretty much), neighbour-friends and random strangers on the same mission would walk a good few miles with buckets in search of water. We usually did find, the process wasn’t gruelling, it was liberating and exciting. Then after a few days of inconvenience (limited bath water or no bath, no flushed toilets, unwashed dishes and clothes, etc.), we would get the torrential style downpour and the whole street would come alive, capturing raindrops and all the blessed, innocent kids in the neighbourhood would be playing catch, totally starkers in the rain (FREE, UNCAPPED AND ABUNDANT WATER SUPPLY 🙂). Times have moved on and I can’t remember the last time I turned on a tap and didn’t receive water, my children will also never tell this story, and while I am grateful for progress and small mercies, let me ask you this - which part of the description above leads you to believe that my childhood was fraught with suffering? I had a blast!

Sally Chiwuzie here, sunglasses on. Dream chasing and legacy building are on track. Continuous improvement. Always.
Inner Voice - what’s today Sally?
Me - 1st of August, Gratitude Thursday
Inner Voice - what are the thoughts for today?
Me - #gratitude #hope #smallmercies #contentment #love #belief #trusttheprocess #abundance #GodsLove #raindrops #petrichor #childhood #blessings #mindset #unshakable
Me again - I want to live life with the heart of a child (without social media) - content with my own.

#Unshakable is a state of mind. Take your state of mind with you everywhere you go. Be #Unshakable. Be in truth with yourself. Love yourself.

Lots of love,

#Unshakable Sally xxx

#liveyourbestlife #gratitudeisamagnrtformiracles #trusttheprocess #prisonerofhope
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Thursday Love 💝

Today, I am grateful for raindrops; you? 

You cannot miss what you do not have. My childhood in Benin City saw times when we went days without water - same kind’a situations like you see on TV. I watch these adverts now and I understand that there are people who have/had it a million times rougher than I did, but let me tell you my own experience off camera. Secretly, I looked forward to these times. My sisters (bro was a baby pretty much), neighbour-friends and random strangers on the same mission would walk a good few miles with buckets in search of water. We usually did find, the process wasn’t gruelling, it was liberating and exciting. Then after a few days of inconvenience (limited bath water or no bath, no flushed toilets, unwashed dishes and clothes, etc.), we would get the torrential style downpour and the whole street would come alive, capturing raindrops and all the blessed, innocent kids in the neighbourhood would be playing catch, totally starkers in the rain (FREE, UNCAPPED AND ABUNDANT WATER SUPPLY 🙂). Times have moved on and I can’t remember the last time I turned on a tap and didn’t receive water, my children will also never tell this story, and while I am grateful for progress and small mercies, let me ask you this - which part of the description above leads you to believe that my childhood was fraught with suffering? I had a blast! 

Sally Chiwuzie here, sunglasses on. Dream chasing and legacy building are on track. Continuous improvement. Always. 
Inner Voice - what’s today Sally?
Me - 1st of August, Gratitude Thursday 
Inner Voice - what are the thoughts for today?
Me - #gratitude #hope #smallmercies #contentment #love #belief #trusttheprocess #abundance #GodsLove #raindrops #petrichor #childhood #blessings #mindset #unshakable 
Me again - I want to live life with the heart of a child (without social media) - content with my own. 

#Unshakable is a state of mind. Take your state of mind with you everywhere you go. Be #Unshakable. Be in truth with yourself. Love yourself. 

Lots of love,

#Unshakable Sally xxx 

#liveyourbestlife #gratitudeisamagnrtformiracles #trusttheprocess #prisonerofhope

 

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Hello beautiful angel how are you doing today

Lovely

You pretty always reminds me of queen Shiba bless you my queen

Hello lady

good morning

Hello

Hello

Excellent.

nice

Cutest

It’s took me back to those days also. Thank you for remaining us from where we are coming from and where are going. Thanks

Fine girl

I’d completely forgotten about that hunt for water. I was lucky. I knew where to find it. I still had to fetch it though. And it wasn’t easy. The bucket queue. Don’t move from your bucket or be too slow when it’s your turn or someone will push their own in front. The bucket was sometimes too full and too heavy. I never put it on my head but I remember holding it between my legs and swinging it to make it easier to carry and losing some water in the process. And the Jerry can! Not really a Jerry can but that shape. It had a lid so was better for transporting and also for storing. Now I’m remembering my heating coil that could burn a hole in my plastic bucket if there wasn’t enough water in it. How I ‘suffered.’ I didn’t think I was suffering though. It was normal. Ohhhhh!!! And bathing with one third of a bucket of water. There was a technique to get oneself really clean with so little. Maaaan... I feel I’ve deskilled myself. I now need a strong ten minute shower or a whole big bath full of water or I’m REALLY suffering. 😂😂😂 Thanks for the reminder. Xxxxx

😊It's been raining almost non-stop in Benin; they call it '7-days rain' even though it seems more like 14...it's funny how we perceive the inconveniences of yester-years with nostalgia. If only we know in the present how fondly we will look back at the rough patches, I think we would value every experience more in real time. Thanks Sal, this really made me smile and think of my own childhood search for water adventures❤

Fine girl

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4 weeks ago

SallyChiwuziedotcom

Monday Love 💝

Give a situation to a cross section of people and watch them all react differently to it. When I was growing up, the trending method for instilling discipline was a good hiding. At 41, I cannot tell you whether my behaviour was better or worse for being beaten; I can tell you that I know people who claim that their entire moral code was strengthened by the discipline, and yet, a few others I know are still in therapy. People react differently and I am learning not to pass judgement on reactions that differ from mine. Still, I doff my hat to those who take the bad hand they have been dealt (a traumatic childhood, failed marriage, unforeseen disasters) and channel these experiences into being the best version of themselves in existence at every point in time - all the more beautiful for having been broken in the first place.

Sally Chiwuzie here, sunglasses on. Dream chasing and legacy building are on track. Continuous improvement. Always.
Inner Voice - ultimately, you choose.

#Unshakable is a state of mind. Take your state of mind with you everywhere you go. Be #Unshakable. Be in truth with yourself. Love yourself.

Lots of love,

#Unshakable Sally xxx

#SallyChiwuzie #UNSHAKABLE #SilentSymphonies #TogetherWeAreUnshakable #Positivity #Inspiration #nomoresadsongs #youchoose #youdecide
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Monday Love 💝

Give a situation to a cross section of people and watch them all react differently to it. When I was growing up, the trending method for instilling discipline was a good hiding. At 41, I cannot tell you whether my behaviour was  better or worse for being beaten; I can tell you that I know people who claim that their entire moral code was strengthened by the discipline, and yet, a few others I know are still in therapy. People react differently and I am learning not to pass judgement on reactions that differ from mine. Still, I doff my hat to those who take the bad hand they have been dealt (a traumatic childhood, failed marriage, unforeseen disasters) and channel these experiences into being the best version of themselves in existence at every point in time - all the more beautiful for having been broken in the first place. 

Sally Chiwuzie here, sunglasses on. Dream chasing and legacy building are on track. Continuous improvement. Always. 
Inner Voice - ultimately, you choose. 

#Unshakable is a state of mind. Take your state of mind with you everywhere you go. Be #Unshakable. Be in truth with yourself. Love yourself. 

Lots of love,

#Unshakable Sally xxx 

#SallyChiwuzie #UNSHAKABLE #SilentSymphonies #TogetherWeAreUnshakable #Positivity #Inspiration #nomoresadsongs #youchoose  #youdecide

4 weeks ago

SallyChiwuziedotcom

...before we go to bed - #sundaynight #thoughts #bestoftheday #randomthoughts #bestversionofyou #bestversionofme #doyourbest #tomorrow ... See MoreSee Less

...before we go to bed - #sundaynight #thoughts #bestoftheday #randomthoughts #bestversionofyou #bestversionofme #doyourbest #tomorrow

1 month ago

SallyChiwuziedotcom

Thursday Love 💝

Yesterday was a special day. It was my son’s last day of Primary School and excuse my bragging, but might I add how I was presented with an end of year ‘ALL A’s’ report. The beginning of this journey was one of many for me - total severance from a marriage that no longer served me, a weird ass change in career, a shift in mental state, a decision to publish a book, a journey of self rediscovery, see how far I can challenge life (my life!) - to start from rock bottom and rebuild my ‘float-in-the-cloud’ castle that had collapsed into smithereens - rebuild it with a solid foundation instead - this time at pace, and firmly on the ground.

I can tell you about childcare woes, ridiculously staggered payments, missed school events, heartbreaking decisions and the many nights I sat in the east corner of my bedroom at 3.15am, in total darkness crying my eyes out in a pity party for one. I survived this and remain indebted to angels (story for another day) who made it work for me somehow. Things were / are not perfect (if they ever are) - topping the long list of examples is the fact that even though I had planned my schedule for months to accommodate this, I still was unable to attend his last day assembly and my mum and daughter were the next best thing, throwing 1.1million other plans up in the air as a consequence. Life. The hustle. A working mother’s hustle. A single working mother’s hustle.

I watched the video of his speech addressing a room full of his teachers, friends, and an additional audience of adults, some of whom were strangers to him and my heart swelled with pride because that moment right there represented everything I work for and continue to work for. When Khare was born, my late grandpa was well aware of my life struggles and for symbolism and by way of an inheritance prayer for me (it was one of my last memorable conversations with him), grandpa named him ‘Chukwudubem - God continue to guide me.’ I carry this message in my heart and every time I stumble, I make a mark on the spot before I get back up; this way I can reference lessons learnt and celebrate the fact that I get back up, damnit. Still I Rise!

Sally Chiwuzie here, sunglasses on. Dream chasing and legacy building are on track. Continuous improvement. Always.
Me - *Nostalgic Tears * - I am overwhelmed.
Inner Voice - Rock bottom is a solid foundation. You just keep building #Unshakable woman, your sky scraper just went up another floor!

#Unshakable is a state of mind. Take your state of mind with you everywhere you go. Be #Unshakable. Be in truth with yourself. Love yourself.

Lots of love,

#Unshakable Sally xxx

#SallyChiwuzie #UNSHAKABLE #SilentSymphonies #TogetherWeAreUnshakable #rockbottomisasolidfoundation #lifestories #workingmother #singlemother #graduation #selfdiscovery #careerchange #direction #goals #milestones #stumble7timesgetup8 #mindset #truth #doyou #stillirise
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Thursday Love 💝

Yesterday was a special day. It was my son’s last day of Primary School and excuse my bragging, but might I add how I was presented with an end of year ‘ALL A’s’ report. The beginning of this journey was one of many for me - total severance from a marriage that no longer served me, a weird ass change in career, a shift in mental state, a decision to publish a book, a journey of self rediscovery, see how far I can challenge life (my life!) - to start from rock bottom and rebuild my ‘float-in-the-cloud’ castle that had collapsed into smithereens - rebuild it with a solid foundation instead - this time at pace, and firmly on the ground. 

I can tell you about childcare woes, ridiculously staggered payments, missed school events, heartbreaking decisions and the many nights I sat in the east corner of my bedroom at 3.15am, in total darkness crying my eyes out in a pity party for one. I survived this and remain indebted to angels (story for another day) who made it work for me somehow. Things were / are not perfect (if they ever are) - topping the long list of examples is the fact that even though I had planned my schedule for months to accommodate this, I still was unable to attend his last day assembly and my mum and daughter were the next best thing, throwing 1.1million other plans up in the air as a consequence. Life. The hustle. A working mother’s hustle. A single working mother’s hustle. 

I watched the video of his speech addressing a room full of his teachers, friends, and an additional audience of adults, some of whom were strangers to him and my heart swelled with pride because that moment right there represented everything I work for and continue to work for. When Khare was born, my late grandpa was well aware of my life struggles and for symbolism and by way of an inheritance prayer for me (it was one of my last memorable conversations with him), grandpa named him ‘Chukwudubem - God continue to guide me.’ I carry this message in my heart and every time I stumble, I make a mark on the spot before I get back up; this way I can reference lessons learnt and celebrate the fact that I get back up, damnit. Still I Rise! 

Sally Chiwuzie here, sunglasses on. Dream chasing and legacy building are on track. Continuous improvement. Always. 
Me - *Nostalgic Tears * - I am overwhelmed.
Inner Voice - Rock bottom is a solid foundation. You just keep building #Unshakable woman, your sky scraper just went up another floor! 

#Unshakable is a state of mind. Take your state of mind with you everywhere you go. Be #Unshakable. Be in truth with yourself. Love yourself. 

Lots of love,

#Unshakable Sally xxx 

#SallyChiwuzie #UNSHAKABLE #SilentSymphonies #TogetherWeAreUnshakable #rockbottomisasolidfoundation #lifestories #workingmother #singlemother #graduation #selfdiscovery #careerchange #direction #goals #milestones #stumble7timesgetup8 #mindset #truth #doyou #stillirise
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